14 things 2014 taught me

A personal memo from me to you & my future self written in a typical listicle millennial form.

1// Distance doesn’t cause love to fade, lack of interest does. That goes to friendships too.

2// It’s not luck what gets you to places, it’s your brain. Get those neurological connections and grey matter to think, they are designed exactly for that.

3 // I’ll rather be dislike by who I am than liked for being just like everybody else.

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4// I like my conversations like I like my wine: sparkly & refreshing. 

5// Life is beautiful, is not fair or simple or predictable, but it’s full-on in your face gorgeous!

6// Telling the people you love that you love them every moment you can, should be part of your daily routine.

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7// Exams and grades don’t define your inner spark, drive and imagination. Actually, quite the contrary.

8// People with the best grades are not doing the most exciting things after college, trust me. People who took the bigger risks are, regardless if they had great grades or not.

9// The sexiest most intimate moment you can have is when both of you enjoying, living and breathing the present. If you know what I mean.

10// Les grandes personnes ne comprennent jamais rien. The Little Prince could not have explained it better, some grown-ups totally forget how to be happy.

11// Dreaming big is today’s standard for success and it’s free. If you are not willing to take risks and think different you won’t ever be able to build a life full of adventures and unforgettable moments. And being rich and famous doesn’t count as dreaming big, please (read point #2).

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12// Inhale the pain, exhale compassion. Everybody is fighting their own demons, don’t let people who can not handle theirs infect you with negative vibes.

13// Physical beauty is overrated. Photoshop has gone crazy and brands don’t know what to sell any more. Your cellulite, stretch marks and scars don’t even tell half of your story, how many times your smile has brighten someone’s day, how much hugs you get around the clock & how much love your surrounded with. Confidence is the key to everything.

14// You’re human. You’re flawed and you’re not meant to be perfect, embracing your mistakes & shortcomings is actually more enlightening that pretending nothing is wrong.

How much has 2014 taught you?

The year is not over yet, there’s plenty of room to keep learning still ;-)

From the sunny side of this, 

Isabel

Wanderlust tag

I have been stung really bad by the  wanderlust bug as long as I could remember, so when I saw this wanderlust tag idea from Tea Was Here and thought it would be fun to follow along!

Where was your first plane to?
To Detroit, USA. I was heading for my first exchange experience to Kalamazoo, Michigan. I was about 12 years old and I was flying without my parents. I remember being so excited and not nervous at all. There were just a few professors with us but it was mostly students flying on probably our first trip abroad without our parents. What a great way to start my wanderlusting years!

Where have you traveled to that you would love to visit again?
The Riviera Maya, so much things to see, do, taste & learn!

at the cenote azul back in january

at the cenote azul back in january

You’re leaving tomorrow, money is no object, where are you going?

Paris, it’s a very hard city to navigate so I would love to have enough money to make it a relaxing trip.

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my roomies from my exchange experience aka soul sisters <3

Preferred method of travel; planes, trains or car?

Trains, they more comfortable than plane or cars seats and I love the views and the fixation you get during the journey!

Favourite travel website?

I mainly prefer travel or expat blogs like The well travelled wife, Dancing with shadows, Packing my suitcase, On the Luce, To days like this, & World of wanderlust because I love reading their own personal experiences and looking at wonderful places through their eyes!

Where would you travel to just eat the food?

To Mexico of course and I would love to go to Italy again!

Is there a place you would never go again?
Probably Brussels, I loved Gent and Bruge but Brussels was a little bit gray and boring compared to the rest of the country.

Can you recite your passport number from memory if asked?

Not yet!

Do you prefer the Window, Aisle, or Middle seat?

Window <3

the view arriving at the suuny side of the alps last may!

the view arriving at the sunny side of the alps last may!

How do you pass the time on the air plane?
Write and ramble on my journal, read, watch movies & TV series, listen to music, sleep and play solitaire.

So there you have it, some insights on my travel musings. What have been your favorite travel memories?

Feel free to join in & share your wanderlust musings in your blog or here! Would love to learn more from you :)

From the sunny side of this, 

Isabel 

 

The No-Bullshit Guide to Cultural Shock

Friends and family always ask me how I’m doing, if I’m missing Mexico, and how do I make living so far away from everything I know and love look so easy?

Here’s my secret: I just keep going. 

I don’t know if I really make it look that easy, I just try to keep a positive online presence because I want to be able to forget fast enough about the really hard, excruciating days where I don’t seem to be getting anything right. Going to a simple grocery errand turns to a complicated maze full of words and things I don’t understand. I had mistakenly bought body lotion for shower soap, baby wet wipes for make-up removers, and turkey fillets for chicken breasts. It’s sounds funny now but sometimes those moments were the last drop in a very long and confusing day.

I have been kicked off a bus because I didn’t know I couldn’t pay with coins, I have bought the wrong bus card at the wrong time, and wrongly waited for the bus to arrive at the time it said on the time table. But you know what? Those moments make up for a really are insignificant part of my life here.

Now I can navigate the city and the bus system like a local, I know how to distinguish between turkey fillets and chicken breasts, and I have been and seen places I wouldn’t never imagined in my wildest dreams.

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Let’s just get some perspective now, there are probably the same proportion  of assholes in your city than in Paris. You probably also get stuck in traffic at rush hour, waste time in pointless bureaucratic procedures, and sometimes there’s nothing new and exciting about the weekends besides sleeping.

Everybody has good and bad days wherever they are. I can only say that the difference of those days happening in your hometown or abroad is that you have a feeling that you are more in control of the situation at home.

So there’s my secret, there goes the glamour of the fancy lifestyle of life abroad. When in Rome, do as the Romans do has never been more true to me.

You have to be a diligent observer of everything around you and you have to learn to keep your chin up wherever you go. You’ll encounter a lot of jealous and petty people along your journey, I won’t deny that, but you shouldn’t let the ignorant comments and assumptions of your situation slow you down.

Culture is a powerful and beautiful thing but because of it, most of us live our days thinking some things are meant to be a certain way forever and when that panorama is shaken up a bit we tend to freak out. It’s normal and natural but we will never enrich our existence to the fullest if we’re not willing to push our boundaries.

“The mind that opens to a new idea never returns to its original size.” – Albert Einstein

Cultural shock is very real but it’s not scary and it’s not permanent, without it you will never be able to understand that no matter where you are, human beings are incredible similar to one another despite their different backgrounds. We all have dreams, desires, and hopes. But I’m a firm believer that culture will never be a valid excuse for cowardliness and lack of common courtesy.

At the beginning I hated not being able to understand this whole new world fast enough, but I gave myself a break. I have learned to forgive myself, and acknowledge that this is process and I will never stop learning from it. And I have started to I love it.

I love that I have the opportunity to challenge myself in a daily basis and become more of the person I want to be. I love the people I have surrounded myself with and I love how closer it has brought me with Miha. Cultural shock is a blessing in disguise.

Have you ever went through a cultural shock, how did you cope with it and kept yourself motivated? 

From the sunny side of this,

Isabel

 

Romantic December is Romantic

My heart is full <3

Last weekend we celebrated our second datenniversay by going to the city center, enjoying the city lights exposition and having a very romantic Italian dinner.

Maybe a datenniversary seems silly to celebrate because we’re married now, but last year we didn’t manage to be together. We were mostly long distance throughout our whole relationship, so we are always finding ways to catch up for lost time.
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